A Happy Home

We had the talk with the girls last night that daddy would be moving out. And you know what? It went great!

They are excited for their new bunk beds, getting to pick a paint colour for their new room, sleepovers at daddy’s and for a hamster!

We weren’t actually sure how to start the conversation with them, but in the end decided to talk about how we’ve been sleeping apart and so we wanted to try living apart to see if we’d be happier. 

We waited until it wasn’t an emotional conversation for either of us and the girls were super receptive. We let them know that we both have work to do personally and that it has nothing to do with them. 

We decided to give them just a week’s notice so that they didn’t have too long to wait…with just enough time to get excited about it and not worried about it.

Our goal was to make it sound as fun for them as possible. And really it can be so fun.  It’s how we choose to react and respond to our situations that will determine the outcome. Deryk and I both want to focus on the positive things that living apart will bring to their lives as well as ours.

And i’m not worried about my girls at all. They went to bed last night excited.  As for him and I, we’re both excited about moving forward.  We both feel happier and more like ourselves than we have in a long time. There’s no more expectation and no more resentment. Now the focus is on creating two happy homes for the beautiful children we created together.

If you know someone going through a separation, please share this? It‘s important to remember that our children come first. We need to be amicable, equitable, and compassionate to one another to be a positive role model for our children.

Wishing you peace, balance, happiness, vibrant health and lasting love.

Sandy xo